The real reason why you attract toxic people✋

Have you ever looked at your previous partners and they looked all the same? do you wonder why you meet the same type of people all the time ? Maybe you think that you are not lucky and it's just something you can't control . Well , that's not true there are  reasons behind this let's find out .

1_ Understand the WHY?

You need to know why ? maybe there's something about you that attracts them, in fact attracting toxic people is not a big deal but allowing them to access your life is the problem . many of people have some issues like the need for love  and because of that they are willing to recieve a fake love from a toxic partner not to be alone , and this is just one of the reasons in identifying they why .let me give you another reason if you have been raised by a narcissistic parent (one of them or both are narcissitics ) you are likely to attract a narcissistic partner because you have a wrong image about love , you think it is right just because you are familiar with this toxicity from the childhood this will  do a brainwashing to your understanding of the love concept . another reason also is you are so kind and you put people's hapiness first and that is something really dangerous because if you don't prioritize your self , your partner simply won't . And if you don't set your boundaries , you will Miss the red flags . in fact some people have an issue in recognizing the red flags 🚩they think that people are as good as them and they give them excuses .So sit Alone and think about it ,remember your childhood  and try to know why you allow toxic people to access your life.

2_Detox your mind : 

After you discover the why , empty your mind , your negative ideas ... detox is very important because if you keep thinking about how your partner treated you ,you will attract someone like him  This is Low of attraction you get what you think about mostly. So forget the past and learn from it , think positivly and do some yoga , keep your self busy don't stack there!  set your new boundaries and go on ,you are a new version now , wiser and stronger . Give yourself time don't jump into another relationship your self needs Love so give it to her! after a period of time when you feel like you're ready for a relationship go bring a pen and start writing what you want your partner to look like , for example : do you want a generous partner ? a supportive one ? Make a list on the very important things that you are looking for in your future partner  after that answer this question what is your aim from making a relationship is it marriage or what ? this is to avoid any confusion further . when you are clear about your wants and needs it will be easy for you to know directly if this one deserves a chance with you or not , it will saves time for you .Another thing too is identify what are the best qualities in the other person and the worst ones if you can't accept his worst qualities then it won't work , that's why being clear about what you want and what you can accept and what you can't accept is the key to any relationship.

3_Raise your self-esteem: 

if believe you don't deserve a high quality person , you are right ! if you believe you deserve a high quality person , you are right! This is how the things go , as easy as it seems . so raise your self-esteem and be confident , change your ideas you deserve to be happy you deserve to be with someone who appreciate you , someone who values you someone who puts on the efforts to make it work between you two you deserve to be with someone who is there for you  whenever you need him you deserve love and affection and caring, don't settle for less you deserve a high quality partner but only if you loved your self first and put your self first .if you feel that you can't see your value ask a precious one ( best friend, your mom , dad, sister..)about what are your best qualities , they know you well and they will assure you that you are valuable and you will be happy knowing what you mean to them . you can also read some books on how to raise your self-esteem or watch some youtube videos on how to do that . raising your self-esteem won't only bring the ideal partner but it will also bring the ideal job , the ideal friend and the list goes on ....that's why knowing your precious worth is the Key to a happy life .